About this test
The way we learned to bond as children often shapes how we love as adults: how much closeness we need, how we handle distance and what we fear in a relationship.
Picture each situation and choose the reaction that sounds most like you.
The four adult attachment styles
Attachment theory, developed by John Bowlby and later applied to adult relationships, describes how we seek closeness and security. Psychologists Kim Bartholomew and Leonard Horowitz proposed four styles: secure, anxious (preoccupied), avoidant (dismissive) and fearful.
Your style isn't a life sentence. Stable relationships, self-awareness and therapy can help you move towards earned security.