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Self-esteem isn't about thinking you're perfect; it's about treating yourself with respect even when you're not. And it's usually undermined by a few specific habits.
Answer according to what you usually do or think, not what you'd like to do.
Psychologist Morris Rosenberg defined self-esteem as the overall attitude we have toward ourselves. Research by Kristin Neff adds a key idea: self-compassion, treating yourself as you would a good friend, is more stable than self-esteem based on achievements or comparisons.
Knowing what sabotages your self-esteem lets you work on it directly: questioning your inner critic, limiting comparisons, learning to say no or relating differently to your body.
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